The Final Bun

Hello ladies

And somehow we find ourselves at the end of another year.
God has been good and we are blessed to make it to this day. I have a lot to get off my chest about 2016 which I will do in a separate post because I didn’t want to write it in a rush.

This short post will be the final of the bun of the month series that I started this year. It’s no secret that I am bun obsessed due to my chronic hair styling laziness but I decided to push myself a teeny tiny bit and at least come up with some not so basic buns for this series.

So you may know I promised you an epic bun finale this month…. well I failed ladies, yes I failed….. well maybe not completely.
I felt inspired by the many gravity defying styles I had been seeing on the likes of Lupita and blogger/vlogger Chime Edwards and decided to create my own version…..which I did.
Unfortunately I created the style on a day I had many appointments and didn’t have enough time to take decent pictures or get the style to look neat enough before I had to dash out. I figured I would recreate it in December.

The effects of harmattan, dry and brittle hair!!!! this and a lot of new growth made styling a tad bit difficult. Ps I have clothes on in this picture, my hairs just covering it :)

When I finally got round to it in December the change in weather (harmattan) and a LOT of new growth meant my hair was not having any of that. My hair is supper stiff and just not compatible with styling at the moment.

As a very small compensation I do have one of the blurry pictures I took of the gravity defying multi bun.


My final bun of the month therefore is a somewhat basic two-strand twist bun. I hope you’re not too disappointed.


As we end 2016, I have to say thank you all so much, for your attention, your time, your messages, your kindness and positive vibes, for being a part of my journey and allowing me to be a part of yours in this small way.

Here’s to happy hair journeys in 2017 but more importantly, to happy and healthy lives.



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My Afternoon at Tresses

When I completed my Diploma in Afro Hair Care in 2013, I knew exactly what I intended to offer prospective clients; very detailed and personalised hair regimens followed by several weeks of coaching. The aim of my consultation service is to help my clients understand and care better for their hair and through this prevent damage, breakage and help them maximise their genetic hair growth potential. I am grateful that it has been working out quite well.

Over the years, I have been approached by several ladies who have various scalp and skin disorders such as psoriasis, dermatitis, central centrifugal cicatricial alopecia, etc. Although I do have some understanding of these conditions, depending on their severity, such clients may need some prescribed course of treatment such as laser therapy or topical treatments that contain some steroids which I cannot prescribe.
I realised that I would have some clients that I would have to refer to a trichologist. I knew my international clients would be able to find one without too much difficulty but for my Nigerian clients,  I didn’t know who I could to refer them to with confidence.  Enter Koyinsola Vera-Cruz!!!!!



I met Koyin when I made her, her BFF and her mum some wigs.  Koyin and I got talking about hair journeys and hair care services in Nigeria. I knew she was a God send when she told me she was studying to become a fully qualified trichologist.

A few years down the line, Koyin is certified and has set up Tresses by K Vera-Cruz where she offers trichology consulting and hair treatment services. I have referred several clients to koyin over the years and finally popped round to her clinic/salon recently. Her set up is very bright and airy and well kitted out. I was very very VERY impressed by the wide variety of natural products and oils she had and by the types of treatments she offered. Everything was obviously well thought out and of great quality.


some of the hair treatment services offered at Tresses


Infused oils!!! They are so pretty…and good for your hair too.



So ladies if you are in Lagos and looking for a trichologist, stop by at Tresses by K Vera-Cruz located at Shoppers Delight, 58 Adetokunbo Ademola, Victoria Island, Lagos, Nigeria.

It’s wash day for me right now so that bun of the month post I promised is coming up real soon.


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Tips to help ensure your wigs are truly protective


Hello ladies,

I am back in my kinky-straight hair wig and I am so relieved to have my hair away for a while. Not because it came too difficult to manage but because my schedule became quite packed I began to neglect hair care seriously. With my wig regimen, taking care of my hair feels really effortless and that is what I need right now.

In the last 3 years or so there has been a huge shift from black women wearing sew-in weaves and braids to wigs. This is a trend I hope will be here for good. Wigs, when worn correctly, are much safer and less invasive than sew-in weaves and braids which are notorious for causing traction alopecia.
Although I have nothing against well constructed full wigs, I only wear u-part wigs because that is what I feel most comfortable in.   When wearing a u-part wig, a partial sew-in weave or adding a few tracks to your hair, it is very important to choose your extensions strategically, why? Because it makes a big difference to whether your extensions will be protective or destructive to your hair.

In this post I will share a few tips for choosing and wearing wigs safely.


Tip 1 – Choose  Your Hair Extension Texture and Colour  Strategically

This tip applies to ladies who leave out some of their own hair to blend with their wigs or weaves.  Many ladies choose hair extensions in textures they like and then try to make their own hair conform to or match the texture/colour they have purchased.
This often leads to the regular use of heat to make the leave-out hair sleek and smooth.  In some cases, ladies who are natural relax their hairline solely for the sake of making it blend with their hair extensions.  Other ladies even bleach and colour their hair to achieve the perfect blend.
If care isn’t taken, excessive use of heat, chemical dyes and relaxing too often can lead to breakage and thinning of the leave-out hair.

Ladies, it should be the other way around.
You should always choose extensions that will blend seamlessly with your own hair so that you wouldn’t have to use heat, or chemical colours and relaxers on your leave out hair.  This is especially important if the wig or extensions is going to be worn very frequently.
Ladies who are relaxed should try to look for texture types that will blend with their freshly relaxed hair as well as when it is many weeks post relaxer and has a lot of new growth. Kinky straight hair is ideal for this in my opinion.

I often write posts with relaxed, texlaxed and kinky afro textured hair in mind. I do read up on all hair textures and just in case anyone would like to known about other hair textures there are so many resources and sites you can learn from such as this post about 3c hair.


Tip 2 – Extra Tight Doesn’t Make It Right

Your wig should certainly have a good fit.
Unfortunately, many ladies confuse a good fit with an excessively tight fit.   I once had a client tell me she wanted her  wig to be so tight that it stayed on even if it was being tugged and pulled even though it had no clips, combs and was glue free.  She simply wanted the wig base itself to hug her head that tightly.
A wig that tight will place a lot of tension on your hairline and scalp and lead to breakage and traction alopecia.
Try to wear wigs that fit well and are secure enough but please remember that a wig is not a weave and as such should not feel as tight or secure as a weave that has been stitched to your hair.


Tip 3 – Handle with Care if it’s got Combs and Clips.

If you have a wig or weave clip-in that have combs and clips attached to them, try to get familiar with where the combs and clips are located.  Also learn how the wig clips they are opened and close so you can put on and take off the wigs carefully and correctly.  I have seen ladies tear out their hair because they were not opening the clips properly when trying to take off the wig.

Avoid placing  clips  and combs directly on your hairline because the hair and follicles there tends to be much weaker than other areas. When wig clips and combs are not used carefully or placed on the hairline daily for several weeks it can lead to bald patches.  If your wig has clips or combs they should be placed further back than your actual hairline.

Any excess clips and combs can be removed, for instance, a lot of u-part wigs are made with 4 wig clips to keep the wigs secure.  I only make use of two of the wig clips in my wigs and remove the other two that are not used and the combs at the nape area of the wig. This reduces the risk of them snagging on and breaking my hair when putting on and taking off the wig.


Tip 4-  Do not forget your real hair

You must have some sort of regimen you follow when wearing wigs.  You should still ensure your hair and scalp are cleaned regularly and that your hair is moisturised and sealed often enough.
The last thing you want  is a dirty clogged scalp to affect your scalp health and hair growth. You also want to avoid your hair become so dry and brittle whilst wearing wigs that it begins to break.
A wig is only protective if your hair is still be well cared for underneath.
I hope all these tips will help you make the most out of wearing wigs as part of your hair care routine. If you wear wigs please do share what your routine or regimen is when wearing wigs. I might learn a thing or two from you.


My next couple of posts will be the finale of the bun of the month series and visit to a Lagos based Trichologist to learn more about her services.



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Tips for transitioning from relaxed to texlaxed

One of the benefits of texlaxed hair is how thick it makes your hair look. This picture was taken right after I finished blow drying my hair on my texlax day in March this year.


And just like that, December is upon us. 2016 has been a special year in so many ways and I feel blessed to have plenty to be grateful to God for. I hope your year has been fruitful and filled with more happy times than sad ones.

I often get inspired on what topics to write about from the comments and questions I get from so many of you. Today’s post is about texlaxing which I have written about a few times already but I clearly left some stones unturned since I still get many questions about this.
I thought I should  answer the most popular FAQ’s I get about texlaxing and also add links to my previous post about texlaxing. I hope this will make things clearer for any oldie or newbie who has questions about texlaxing.

If you would like to know what texlaxing is, methods of texlaxing, products used for texlaxing as well as the pros and cons of texlaxing please click here and here.


FAQ 1 – Do I need to do anything to my relaxed hair before I start texlaxing ?

No, there is no rite of passage for switching from relaxed hair to texlaxed hair. There isn’t any special product to be used or processed to be completed before a relaxed lady can begin to texlax her hair. You simply start under processing your hair instead of letting it become fully straight when next you relax.


FAQ 2 – Am I supposed to cut off all my relaxed hair when I start texlaxing?

This is entirely up to you. When you begin texlaxing your hair, you can decide to cut off all your relaxed hair or you can have a more long term transition by trimming off the relaxed hair gradually over a few months or years even. Whatever works best for you.


FAQ 3 – How do I manage the two textures in my hair ( texlaxed texture and relaxed texture) whilst I am transitioning to full texlaxed hair

You may find it difficult to manage texlaxed hair initially especially if you normally relax you hair bone straight.
The look and feel and maintenance of texlaxed hair may take some ladies a while to get used to depending on how much texture is left in your hair.

When it comes to managing hair of different textures some tips that never go wrong include moisturising and sealing regularly to ensure that both textures are well hydrated and flexible which will help reduce the risk of breakage.

Detangling and combing in sections, texlaxed hair tends to feel and look much fuller than relaxed hair so working in section will help you ensure you are more thorough with detangling and applying products. It also allows you to comb your hair more gently. Again this helps to reduce the risk of breakage.

Embracing the natural look and natural hair inspired styles also helps. You have to mentally adjust and be ready to embrace styles that work with your textured roots rather than recreate the extremely sleek looks you might have gotten away with when your hair was fully relaxed straight.


FAQ 4 – I have type 4 hair, will texlaxing give me type 3 hair?

Texlaxing does not convert your hair from one curl type to another especially if you have type 4 hair. The look many ladies with type 4 hair achieve with texlaxing is that of blown out natural hair.


I hope the contents of this post and the links to the older posts about texlaxing answers your questions and demystifies texlaxing once and for all. If however you have more questions about texlaxing please comment below and I will get back to you as soon as possible.
Please feel free to encourage other readers by sharing your own experience of transitioning from relaxed to texlaxed.

The next post will be a wig related/hair update/wig safety post.

Come back soon



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Hair Update: 10 Weeks Post


Hello ladies

I haven’t done a hair update post in a while. Most of my hair update posts are relatively drama free…but not this one. I almost had a setback with my hair, I had a bun of the month fail and decided I’ve had enough and I am switching to my wig regimen.



How I Avoided a Setback

I remember talking to a client of mine in Ghana and another one here in Nigeria during our weekly catch up sessions. Both had not been able to keep up with their regimens that week for a variety of reasons.

I remember telling them I understood because off course, there are more important things about life than hair but that they should be aware that slacking on their hair regimens would have some consequence and repercussions, ie mostly tangles and a higher risk of breakage. So I encouraged them to try to get back on track.

The thing is as I was talking to them I too had not been consistent with my own hair regimen for almost two weeks because of work and other life issues I suppose. I knew what I had waiting for me and the more I neglected my hair, the more the fear of sorting it out crept :)

Eventually I sucked it up and decided to see just how much damage my neglect had done and committed to doing what was needed to salvage the situation.  Ladies!!!!!! It was bad.

My hair was severely tangled and matted. I knew I would be able to detangle it…but I knew it would take hours and hours and hours. If I didn’t take the time needed I would have had a huge setback. I started detangling my hair in small sections around 10am and wasn’t done till 7.30 pm. Yes it took me 9 hours to detangle my hair!!!!!

I had breaks in between but that is how long it took. When I am consistent with my hair regimen, it usually takes me an hour to detangle my hair which isn’t a lot when you consider the fact that my hair is over 20 inches long. Fortunately and surprisingly, I had very little breakage but that is only because I took the time to gently detangle it. Lesson learnt: consistency is a must. I don’t plan to neglect my hair that badly ever again.


Bun of the month Fail

After detangling,   I washed and conditioned my hair but didn’t have enough time to fit in a proper bun of the month hair style. I simply put my hair in a simple bun and was off to see some more clients. I had such big plans for an epic bun of the month post but with all the time spent salvaging my hair I just couldn’t fit it in. So for this month please make do with this basic big bun. I assure you that you won’t be disappointed for the bun of the month series finale in December.


Switching to My Wig Regimen

I relaxed my hair on 12th September so I am now 10 weeks post relaxer. Although I can still manage my hair I don’t have the time needed to care for hair with a lot of new growth right now.
When my hair is many weeks post relaxer, everything takes so much longer and I need to detangle more regularly. With my schedule right now, that just can’t work so it’s back to my wig regimen for the next few months. I am kind of looking forward to the mini break from my hair but at the same time I am already missing my hair even though it’s still out.
I can’t eat my cake and have it I guess.

So what has been happening with your hair ladies? Is anyone else putting their hair in a long term protective style? My next post will be an educational one about how to transition from relaxed hair to texlaxed hair.

I hope you’ll be back soon to read it.



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